Friday, 18 June 2010

Getting Mini - Part One

My darling boy will be four on 24 June, I truly can not believe how time flies, so now is the time to tell you all about getting mini.  I have told you about getting maxi here
 Maxi and I on the day I found out I was expecting Mini

After the pregnancy I had with Maxi, I wasn't sure about having another baby, but watching him grow we knew that we didn't want him to be an only child.  So we made the decision not to take any precautions, well other than the fact I had just had a baby!
 
Maxi didn't sleep, well never more than about 4 hours at a time, but that was what I expected.  So when I started to feel sick and dizzy I put it down to the fact that I was tired, exhausted even.  Compounded with the fact that he had just been released from hospital and we were back from the North East from his joint christening with my niece. 

The last thing I expected to be was pregnant again.  We had a test in the drawer from Maxi, so I took the test and me and MadDad were nearly floored, but you couldn't wipe the smile off our faces.  Maxi was to be a big brother.

I spent the next couple of days still feeling terrible, I was dizzy and nauseous and then the vomiting set in with a vengeance.  I suffered Hyperemesis with Maxi, so knew that this was it all over again.  I was petrified.  How was I going to manage looking after my baby if I was going to be that ill all over again.
So MadDad and I went to see my wonderful GP and she agreed that I should start on the anti nausea medication immediately, this meant that MadDad had to inject me 3 times a day in my bum.  It was worth it, it reduced the sickness from pretty non stop to about 5 times a day.

We also made the decision that we would relocate back to the NorthEast, as I wanted to be a stay a home mummy.

I was due to return to work at the end of March from my maternity leave and we agreed that I would take any holiday due to me and then roll straight on to my new maternity leave.  I don't think I was particularly popular!

I also made one of the biggest decisions of my life, I would learn to drive.  I did try when I was 17, but after 3 fails gave up and had never felt the need to drive since.  So I found a sympathetic driving instructor and explained to him my situation - pregnant, sickness and nausea and really wanting to pass my test and I started to have lessons.  Paul my instructor was great and I passed my driving test in the March, 3 months before Mini was born and the inspector didn't even know I was pregnant!

We sold our house and found a house to rent in MadDad's home village.  I cant say that moving 360 odd miles, with a one year old and and being pregnant was fun, but we managed.  We moved in the April 2006.  Maxi had just turned 1.  I was getting more and more tired every day and we spend a lot of time snuggled up on the sofa and playing cars in the front room.

Yes I was still being sick, coupled with the fact that I had low blood pressure which meant that I would often faint when changing a nappy.  I used to sit and cry at the fact that Maxi would know to bring me the tissues when I went running to the toilet, but we managed with a lot of help from my mother in law.

After my experience with my previous section I as determined not to have one this time.  I couldn't contemplate the thought of a 15 month old,  a new born and a section.  So I went through copious meetings with my new consultant (I was going to give birth up North, rather than at the Royal Berkshire, where Maxi had been born) and we agreed that we would aim for a VBAC, but there could be no induction and they would monitor me closely after the abruption I had with Maxi.  I would like to say it all got to that stage, but me being me, it didn't!

to be continued.....



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I love to hear other people's pregnancy and birth stories, can't wait for the next part!

It sounds like you had a rough time with both your pregnancies but, wow, you really made some big changes! Well done for getting your licence. I'll be aiming for a VBAC when we have our next one but I think it will be a bit of a battle! I love the photo of you and Maxi :)
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I did have a rough time, but they were both so, so worth it. every ounce of pain, I wouldnt turn back the clock at all.
As an ex midwife I am now sitting on the edge of my seat waiting for part two :-)
Please don't keep me waiting too long. Hope your little visitor that's arriving soon doesn't cause you half as many problems :-)
A x
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Dont worry, he turns four on Thursday, so it will be all done before then!
I had severe hyperemesis with my pregnancy. In NZ they won't give you any anti-nausea medication so I ended up hospitalized and on a drip - I lost 6 kilos in the first week of pregnancy! It was a long tough 9 months.
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I had it too with Maxi and spent over 4 months in hospital and lost 12 kg and could afford to though! They tried everything, including steriods and this was the only hope of actually getting through the pregnancy. Same with Mini, so we took our chances. I know the drugs had side effects but in balalnce it was an acceptable risk. I had a baby, I couldnt spend as much time on hospital on a drip. I dont think I have ever felt as alone as when I was pregnant with the boys.
Incredible what you did in such a short time - one determined Lady !
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Oh yes, I am definatly tenacious and determined to a fault sometime!
Wow! You went through so much...putting me off now!! ;D
Looking forward to part 2
Gemxxx
ps- your wonderful green swap goodies arrived yesterday. I'll blog later. Love them all. Thanks soooooo much
Congrats ahead of next week's birthday; that means school in September? Another milestone. Looking forward to part 2 of the birth story (I think - it sounds quite a tough experience).
Ahhhh, nearly four! I love the photo. It was al,l so hard for you all in all , and your pregnancies sound very hard. Maybe I didn't miss much after all! I look forward to part 2! Suzie xxx
I can't wait for the second part!!! So horrible that you were feeling so ill yet you managed to do so much despite this, that's pretty incredible in my eyes.x
You are one feisty and determined lady - good on you! And what adorable boys to show for it all.
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swanbythelakeside · 771 weeks ago

You are very good at making the past make sense, I find I always tie myself in knots when trying to write down what happened, and feel overwhelmed by negative feelings.
I love hearing your birth and pregnancy story, it helps me come to terms with some of my own emotions around that time!
Thank you.
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swanbythelakeside · 771 weeks ago

I think sometimes we need to talk about bad things that happened without being told, "everything turned out alright in the end", by other people...I think only we can make that judgement. It's amazing how much joy can come out of pain in the end, and how looking back we realise that there was happiness even when we were struggling.
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swanbythelakeside · 771 weeks ago

I forgot to say that was fantastic about the driving, the same thing happened to me, I just had to learn when the twins were little, after 15 years of non-productive lessons, I couldn't believe I did it! I think the sleep deprivation made me a very "calm" driver, and that's why I passed!
Lovely photo. You had a lot going on! Looking forward to part 2, mini and my four year old will be in the same school year. I feel sad that they're old enough for school already.
Aaaargh that's the most annoying cliff hanger ever! when is part II when is part II, i wanna know the ending ;<)
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