Life

Sometimes I feel as though I don't know quite where I fit in this universe.

Almost as though I am living in a dream or dreaming of the world I am living in.

I wake often unable to tell the difference from real life and the dreams I must have had.

Unable to find things, as I must have put them away on in dream state.

A sudden sense of deja vu overtakes a moment, haven't I done this before?

but where and when?

Am I just going through the motions?

How do I tell the difference between the actual and the perceived?

I want to wake up and make the most of the day.

To grasp the precious time with both hands and squeeze it dry.

To live a worthwhile life.

But how do I do this, what is goal, where is the end line?

I though once out of the monotony of dirty nappies and night feeds,

I would start to see the difference in the days.

But sometimes I feel that I am in a hamsters wheel,

forced to live out everyday again and again and again.

Maybe this is why I find some much joy in the changing seasons.

In the small things that fill my day.

Consistency has been the Key

I thought it was about time I updated you on the MiniMad situation and I am pleased to say that we seen to be going in the right directions with the temper tantrums.

 

I have put my action list in to play and we have drastically reduced the number of incidents and also blessedly the length of any tantrums which do start.

I have not succumbed to any of my curly hair terrorists demands and as someone commented you do not negotiate with terrorists!

The main things that have made the biggest difference are:

• Setting expectations of what I want him to do.
• Counting down to when we are doing it ie 5 mins to school drop off, 2 mins, 1 min.
• Rewarding his positive behaviour with points
• CONSISTANCY

I am much more calm, he is much better behaved and Maxi, well that is another post entirely.  Part of the problem is that mini, wants to do everything that maxi can and do.  So roll on June when he can start swimming lessons and in the next could of weeks he will be starting football tots too.

Getting back in to a routine now the snow has gone has really helped too, we are going to toddlers, duckings and playdates again.

So a big thank you to everyone that commented, gave advise and gave me hope.  It has made a huge difference to our day to day life.  Cheers.